About five years ago I went to a conference and attended a workshop on child sexual assault perpetrator characteristics. The presenter (Craig Ackley of Behavioral Science Education and Consultation Services) outlined eight different types of child sexual abusers. All your kid needs to know is that a sexual abuser could be anyone. However, I think it’s helpful for adults to have an idea of what adult sexual abusers are actually like. This can demystify misconceptions and help you be more aware of questionable behavior.
High Fixation: Preferential
The first four types tend to have a high level of fixation. This means the sexual abuser has a conscious sexual preference for children or adolescents. Often preferential sexual abusers have a very specific age range they like to target. Someone with a preference for pre-pubescent children is called a pedophile and someone with a preference for post-pubescent teens is called a hebephile.
Interpersonal
The interpersonal sexual abuser has a high level of fixation–more so with pedophiles than hebephiles. This means pedophiles are more rigid in the age range they target, and hebephiles are a little more willing to go outside their age preference. This age preference might be a reflection of a significant event–happy or sad–in their own childhood or adolescence. Interpersonal abusers tend to have many victims because the victims grow out of the preferred age range and need to be replaced.
Interpersonal abusers usually won’t have age-appropriate romantic relationships. Hebephile interpersonal abusers will sometimes have non-sexual relationships with peers, but pedophiles tend to be loners and don’t relate well to others. Interpersonal abusers tend to feel inferior to people their own age and for that reason prefer kids or teens. They may also target vulnerable kids and teens to temper their own feelings of inferiority.
Interpersonal abusers usually place themselves in a position where they have a high level of contact with their preferred age group. They may purposely work, volunteer, or hang out in places where they have access to a bunch of kids.
Interpersonal uses a high level of seduction to lure kids in or reassure the child’s parents or caretakers. This is called grooming. They invest a lot of time, money, and resources into the sexual abuse and it’s very well-planned.
Interpersonal abusers use a very low level of aggression and very rarely use violence. They see the abuse as a relationship–both sexually and emotionally–and legitimately believe they’re acting out of love. For this reason they don’t feel remorse for the abuse because they don’t think it’s harmful. With pedophiles the relationship is usually one-way, but hebephiles’ goal is to create a mutual relationship. It’s very atypical for interpersonal abusers to target children or teens they don’t know–to them it’s a relationship to be developed, not a one-night-stand.
Narcissistic
Much like interpersonal abusers, narcissistic abusers usually have a high level of fixation for certain age groups and lots of opportunities for interaction with that age group.
The thing that really sets them apart from interpersonal abusers is that they aren’t really seeking an emotional relationship with the child or teen. They are instead motivated by a desire for sexual gratification. Narcissistic abusers are more savvy socially and are a little more likely to be married than interpersonal abusers.
Another big difference is that narcissistic abusers will sometimes target a child they know, and sometimes it will be a stranger. They will often still use grooming, but things are usually a little less planned-out.
Sadistic/Muted Sadistic
Sadistic and muted sadistic abusers have a fixed age preference, but usually don’t have a high level of contact with kids. Sadistic and muted sadistic usually target children they don’t know.
Sadistic abusers use a high level of sexual violence, whereas muted sadistic tends to use less violence. Sadistic are the second most likely type to kill their victim. Muted sadistic may injure the child and terrorize or humiliate the child, but usually don’t kill them. However, both are motivated by sexual gratification and are aroused by the victim’s response of pain or fear.
Introverted
Introverted abusers are much like narcissistic abusers. The introverted abuser has a fixed preference for kids or teens, is usually seeking sexual gratification rather than a relationship, and they do it in a non-violent way. However, the major difference is introverted abusers usually don’t have the social skills to use seduction and grooming to gain a victim, and this gives them much less access to kids. Thus introverted abusers usually target strangers or very young children.
Low Fixation: Situational
The remaining four types are situational. This means the abuser doesn’t necessarily have a sexual attraction to children or teens. The abuser abuses as the opportunity arises or as a response to stressful circumstances. Low-fixation abusers usually don’t have a high level of contact with children because they usually aren’t seeking out opportunities to abuse.
Non-Sadistic Aggressive
Non-sadistic aggressive types are morally indiscriminate and generally will commit a plethora of crime if he thinks he can get away with it. Victims of non-sadistic aggressive abusers can be either children or adults, acquaintances or strangers–it doesn’t really matter which as long as there’s the opportunity.
Non-sadistic aggressive are very violent and are the type most likely to kill their victims. They are impulsive and drugs or alcohol often contribute to this. Non-sadistic aggressive abusers may abduct their victims.
Regressed
Regressed abusers usually have fairly normal, age-appropriate sexual relationships, and this is their primary sexual interest. However, regressed may also have a less-prominent interest in children or teens. They only act out sexually on kids or teens during times of extreme stress or when an age-appropriate relationship is in conflict. Drug and alcohol use can play a factor in this abuse, and the abuse is not planned out ahead of time.
Much like the narcissistic type, the purpose of the abuse is sexual gratification, so victims can be either acquaintances or strangers. Regressed abusers usually aren’t overtly violent, however if something unexpected happens that causes the abuser to panic, they may kill or hurt their victim. Even so, regressed abusers often feel remorse afterwards, and are the most likely to turn themselves in.
Exploitative
Exploitative abusers are motivated by a desire to experiment sexually–they are open to whatever comes along. Selection of victims is based on availability and vulnerability. They abuse when the opportunity arises and don’t plan it out.
Incest
Incestuous abusers are like regressed abusers in that they usually have an age-appropriate sexual relationship in conjunction with a sexual interest in children or teens. However, the victims are their own children. Incestuous abusers are very emotionally and physically controlling, both within the family and outside of the home. They may be violent either to their spouse or their children. The abuse is not only for sexual gratification purposes, but also to exert control or express anger.
An Important Side-Note:
I haven’t said anything about whether any of the eight are typically male, female, gay, straight, etc. That’s because there’s really no hard and fast rule there. Often the conception is that it’s the gay people to watch out for. They’re often viewed as being sexually deviant, and that doesn’t seem like too big of a step away from sexually abusing children. But in reality they’re no more likely to sexually abuse kids than straight folks. It’s also commonly believed that women don’t sexually abuse kids–another misconception. Stats generally reflect that men are more likely to be sexual abusers, but keep in mind victims of women sexual abusers (most often male) are probably less likely to report sexual abuse.
Next time we’ll discuss some strategies of how adults can prevent sexual abuse.
If you have questions, let me know!